Weddings
A church wedding is a service of worship before God that acknowledges the need for the presence of God in your relationship.
Funerals
Pastors are glad to meet with you to discuss your plans before death as well as minister to you in your time of bereavement.
Columbarium
Christian Marriage
Christian marriage is a joyous and celebrative event in the life of the church. A church wedding is a service of worship before God that acknowledges the need for the presence of God in your relationship.
Wedding Guidelines
To assist in planning for the wedding ceremony and to ensure the sacredness of the service itself, the Session of the Kirk of Kildaire Presbyterian Church in Cary, NC offers a complete set of guidelines for couples planning a Christian marriage in this church.
Eligibility
The Kirk of Kildaire, Presbyterian welcomes the use of its facility for weddings of members who have been active for a minimum of six months prior to the wedding date. The child of an active member may also schedule a wedding.
In certain circumstances, the Pastor in consultation with the Session may approve a wedding for non-members.
Building & Facility Usage
Forms
Funeral & Memorial Services
Pastors are glad to meet with you to discuss your plans before death as well as minister to you in your time of bereavement.
We encourage you to notify the church office, as soon as possible, of your loved one’s death or impending death.
Funeral Guidelines
To assist in planning for the ceremony, the Session at the Kirk offers a complete set of funeral planning guidelines.
In Preparation
The Kirk is offering a series of videos to you titled End of Life: Providing Peace, Help and Hope for you and your family. The video links are below. Contact the church office if you have additional questions after watching the videos or if you would like to speak with a pastor.
Advanced Directives (Caryn Mastali, Parish Nurse) – What are they, how to complete these forms and what to do with them. https://youtu.be/XtFkPhZBmoA
Hospice & Palliative Care (Rich Gwaltney, Transitions Life Care) – What are these and how do they differ? How do I find out more about our local options? https://youtu.be/BWcY1HOVB_w
What to Expect from the Kirk Office (Cyndi Wilson, Office Administrator) – https://youtu.be/JQScrJNNot4
The Kirk’s Funeral Forms (including information about our columbarium) How to complete these and what to do with them. (Nancy Stokes, Stephen Minister) – https://youtu.be/
Music at the Service of Witness to the Resurrection– What is appropriate? Examples of hymns. In addition to congregational hymns, is there a special prelude/postlude/solo desired? (Dr. Larry Abernathy, Director of Music & Arts & Dr. Moon Choi, Organist) – https://www.youtube.com/watch?
A Pastoral Perspective about Death (Rev. Melinda Merkley King, Former Kirk Associate Pastor for Caregiving) – https://youtu.be/r-6GF4bXy7
Preparation Forms & Guidelines
At the Time of Death
Notify the church office, as soon as possible, of your loved one’s death or impending death so the pastors and church can minister to you. A pastor will schedule an appointment with you and other family members to plan the memorial or funeral service.
The purpose of this guide is to support families in this time of grief by assisting in planning a service that recognizes the loss of a loved one and the celebration of their life. The service, in expressing the faith of the church, will be an occasion of dignity, reverence and remembrance. We carefully follow the guidelines for the Service of Witness to the Resurrection which is found in the Directory of Worship, which is a part of the Constitution of the Presbyterian Church (USA).
Staff
Funeral Directors & Mortuaries
Place & Plans for the Service
It is also appropriate to hold the service in the chapel of the funeral home, or to plan an abbreviated service at the grave or Memorial Garden / Columbarium. The funeral or memorial service may be observed before or after the committal of the body.
The family should plan to arrive at the church no later than one-half hour before the service is scheduled to begin. Family members and those to be seated with the family are asked to go directly to the Kirk Chapel (by the church office) upon arrival. It is important that they remain there until the service is ready to begin.
Visitation & Viewing the Body
Cremation
Cremation is an option for Christians and is supported by the Session and the pastors of this church. In case of cremation, no casket is present, and the family may wish to have a picture of their loved one present on the day of the memorial service. It is recommended that ashes be scattered or placed in the Memorial Garden or Columbarium. The service will be led by one of the pastors.
Burial
The pastor should be notified by the family and funeral home about the location of the cemetery.
Depending on location and availability, the pastor(s) may lead a short service of commendation.
Burial at the Kirk The Columbarium & Memorial Garden
Located at the southeast corner of the Kirk’s main sanctuary, the Columbarium and Memorial Garden provides a peaceful place on church property to memorialize those who have died.
Cremated remains may be placed in an urn in a niche of the Columbarium or spread in the Memorial Garden. The niche plaques that list those who have had their cremated remains placed in the Columbarium. There is also a memorial plaque to list those whose cremated remains have been spread in the garden or those whose remains are elsewhere but want to be named in the Kirk’s garden as well.
There are memorial opportunities within the garden for sculptures, a fountain, and benches.
Contact Information
200 High Meadow Drive, Cary, NC 27511
919-467-4944
churchoffice@kirkofkildaire.com
Memorial Garden & Columbarium
See brochure above for opportunities to consider placement.