Stephen Ministry Library

Inventory of Stephen Ministry resources available at Kirk of Kildaire Presbyterian Church

Revised February 2016


  1. (The) Anger Trap – Free yourself from the frustrations that sabotage your life; by Dr. Les Carter. 2003.
  2. (The) Art of Forgiving – When you need to forgive and don’t know how; by Lewis Smedes. 1996.
  3. Boundaries – When to say YES, when to say NO, to take control of your life; by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. 1992..
  4. Caring Enough to Confront – How to understand and express your deepest feelings toward others; by David Augsburger. 2009.
  5. Choosing Forgiveness – Your journey to freedom; by Nancy DeMoss. 2006.
  6. Crazy TimeSurviving divorce and building a new life; by Abigail Trafford. 1992.
  7. Crucial Conversations — Tools for talking when stakes are high; by K. Patterson, J.Grenny, R. McMillan and A.Switzler. 2002
  8. Dignity: the Essential Role It Plays in Resolving Conflict — by Donna Hicks, Ph.D. Forwarded by Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu.2011.
  9.  Everybody WinsA guide to solving conflicts without arguing; by Gary Chapman. 2006.
  10. Generation to Generation Religious aspects of family therapy; by Edwin Friedman. 1985.
  11. Getting Past No Negotiating in difficult situations; by William Ury. 1991.
  12. Get on the Peace TrainA journey from anger to harmony – How successful people cope with anger, their own or that of others; by Lynn Johnson, Ph.D. 2004 – 2007.
  13. The Happy Stepmother: Stay Sane, Empower Yourself, Thrive in Your New Family by Rachelle Katz, Ed.D. 2010.
  14. (The) Journey From Abandonment to HealingSurviving through – and recovering from – the five stages that accompany the loss of love; by Susan Anderson. 2000.
  15. (The) Journey Toward ReconciliationReligious aspects of conflict management; by John Lederach. 1999.
  16. (The) Lies We BelieveThe #1 cause of our unhappiness; by Chris Thurman. 1989.
  17. Let It Go Forgive so you can be forgiven; by T.D. Jakes, 2012.
  18. Life After DivorceCreate a new beginning; by Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse. 1994.
  19. Mom’s House, Dad’s House Making two homes for your child . A complete guide for parents who are separated, divorced, or remarried; by Isolina Ricci, PH.D. 1997.
  20. Oddly Normal A Memoir. One family’s struggle to help their teenage son come to terms with his sexuality; by John Schwartz. 2012.
  21. The Power of Positive Confrontation: The Skills You Need to Handle Conflicts at Work, at Home, Online, and in Lifeby Barbara Pachter with Susan Magee. 2014.
  22. (The) Price of Love For victims and survivors of domestic violence; by T. Bagley. unknown.
  23. Relationship Rescue A seven step strategy for reconnecting with your partner; by Phillip McGraw, Ph.D. 2000.
  24. (The) Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work A Practical guide from the country’s foremost relationship expert; by John Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver. 1999.
  25. (The) Smart StepdadPractical steps to help you succeed; By Ron Deal. 2011.
  26. (The) Smart StepmomPractical steps to help you thrive; by Ron Deal and Laura Petherbridge. 2009.
  27. UnravelingHanging on to faith through the end of a Christian Marriage; by Elizabeth Corcoran. 2013.
  28. When Parents HurtCompassionate strategies when you and your grown child don’t get along; by Joshua Coleman. Ph.D. 2007.
  29. When the Vow BreaksA survival and recovery guide for Christians facing divorce; by Joseph Kniskern; 1993.
  30. Why Mars & Venus CollideImproving relationships by understanding how men and women cope differently with stress; by John Gray, Ph.D. 2008.


Personal Growth, Inspiration

  1. Adaptability – How to survive change you didn’t ask for; by M.J. Ryan. 2009.
  2. After the Boxes are Unpacked – Moving on after moving in; by Susan Miller. 1995.
  3. (A) Bend in the Road Is Not the End of the Road – 10 positive principles for dealing with change; by Joan and Lunden Andrea Cagan. 1998.
  4. (The) Book of Forgiving – the fourfold path for healing ourselves and our world: by Desmond Tutu and 2014.
  5. Choosing Forgiveness – Your journey to freedom. Using God’s Word to uncover the promises and expose the myths of forgiveness; by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. 2006.
  6. Disappointment With God – Three questions no one asks aloud: Is God unfair? Is He silent? Is he hidden? By Philip . 1988.
  7. Enough – Discovering joy through simplicity and generosity; by Adam Hamilton. 2009. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  8. Healing from Divorce – 28 days of prayer; by Mary Lou Redding. 2013.
  9. Healing Words for the Body, Mind and Spirit – 101 words to inspire and affirm. 2009.
  10. Here If You Need Me – A memoir of a woman who lived through tragedy to grace; by Kate Braestrup. 2007.
  11. Lessons for Life’s Little Detours– essays on important life lessons: by Regina Brett. 2010.
  12. Life After Loss – A personal guide dealing with death, divorce, job change and relocation; by Bob Deits. 2000.
  13. Life Messages – Inspiration for the woman’s spirit. Memories and reflections from women of all walks of life who have risen above their difficulties; by Josephine Carlton. 2002.
  14. Listen – Finding God in the story of your life; by Keri Kent. 2006.
  15. (The) Little Book of Letting Go – A revolutionary 30 day program to cleanse your mind, lift your spirit and replenish your soul; by Hugh Prather. 2000.
  16. Living with Confidence in a Chaotic World – Delves into God’s inspired Word for answers that reveal hope in our uncertain times; by David Jeremiah. 2009.
  17. (The) Lord Is My Shepherd – Healing wisdom of the twenty-third Psalm; by Harold Kushner. 2003.
  18. (A) Man’s Feelings – Finding closure after divorce. A real life story of one’s personal struggle and subsequent redemption from the tragedy of divorce. By Michael. 2008.
  19. Nothing Is Impossible – Autobiography. Reflections on a new life; by Christopher Reeves. 2002.
  20. Please Stop Laughing at Me – One woman’s inspirational story of her son’s school bullying; by Jodee Blanco. 2003.
  21. (The) Promise of Hope – Coping when life caves in; by William Kinnaird. 1993.
  22. Resilience – Reflections on the burdens and gifts of facing life’s adversities; by Elizabeth Edwards. 2009.
  23. Running On Empty – Contemplative spirituality for overachievers; by Fil Anderson. 2004.
  24. Showers of Blessings – Poems of the goodness and wisdom of God; by Helen Steiner Rice. 1988.
  25. Small Miracles – Extraordinary coincidences from everyday life; by Yitta Halberstam and Judith Leventhal. 1997.
  26. Speaking the Truth in Love – How to be an assertive Christian; by Ruth Koch and Kenneth Haugk. 1992.
  27. What About the Big Stuff? – Advice in learning to deal with some of the larger issues in life; by Richard Carlson, Ph.D. 2002.
  28. These are the Gifts I’d Like to Give You – A sourcebook of joy and encouragement; edited by Douglas Pagels 2000.
  29. Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life – A journey through religion that helps us to rescue what remains wise; by Karen Armstrong. 2011.
  30. When Bad Things Happen to Good People – Theodicy, suffering, pastoral counseling; by Harold Kushner. 1981.
  31. Where Is God When It Hurts – A comforting, healing guide for coping with hard times; by Philip Yancey. 1990.
  32. Why Am I Afraid to Tell You Who I Am – Insights into personal growth; by John Powell. 1999.



  1. (The) Anatomy of Hope – How people prevail in the face of illness; by Jerome Groopman. 2004.
  2. (The) Anxiety Cure – A proven method for dealing with worry, stress, and panic attacks; by Dr. Archibald Hart. 1999.
  3. Everything Parent’s Guide to Children with Depression – An authoritative handbook on identifying symptoms, choosing treatments, and raising a happy and healthy child; by Rebecca Rutledge, Ph.D. 2007.
  4. Food Addiction – Healing day by day. Daily resources to help recover from food addiction; by Kay Sheppard. 2003.
  5. How to Help Children Through a Parents’ Serious Illness – Supportive , practical advice from a leading child life specialist; by Kathleen McCue, M.A. 1994
  6. Keys to Living With a Hearing Loss – Description, advice, and coping skills for living with a hearing loss; by Marcia Dugan. 1997.
  7. Life in the Balance: A Physician’s Memoir of Life, Love, and Loss with Parkinson’s Disease and Dementia; by Thomas Graboys, M.D. 2008.
  8. Mayo Clinic on Alzheimer’s Disease – Practical answers on memory loss, aging, research, treatment and caregiving; editor in chief, Ronald Peterson, M.D. 2002.
  9. (The) Monster in the Cave – How to face your fear and anxiety and live your life; by Dave Mellinger and Steven Lynn. 2003.
  10. Morning Has Broken – A couple’s journey through depression; by Emme and Phillip Aronson. 2006.
  11. Shelter from the Storm – Caring for a child with a life-threatening condition; by Joanne Hilden and Daniel Tobin. 2003.
  12. There But for the Grace of God – Surviving cancer with adult stem cell transplants; by Carol Franz. 2009.
  13. There’s Always Help; There’s Always Hope – An award-winning psychiatrist shows you how to heal your body, mind, and spirit; by Eve Wood, MD. 2004.
  14. Unexpected Blessings – Finding hope and healing in the face of illness; by Roxanne Black. 2008.
  15. Victory Through Breast Cancer – Memoir with scripture passages of surviving breast cancer. 1999.
  16. What Do I Do When Teenagers Are Depressed and Contemplate Suicide? – Helping teens break through the darkness of depression and suicide; by Dr. Steven Gerali. 2009.
  17. When and How to Use Mental Health Resources – A guide for Stephen Ministers, Stephen leaders, and church staff; by Kenneth Haugk. 2000.
  18. When a Parent Has Cancer – A guide to caring for your children when you have cancer; by Wendy Harpham. 1997.
  19. You Can Beat Depression – A guide to prevention and recovery; by Dr. John Preston. 2001.
  20. Your Pain Is Changing You: Discover the Power of a Godly Response; by David Crosby. 2014.


Dying, Death, Grief

  1. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End; A deeply affecting and important book about the medical profession’s mishandling of aging and death. #1 New York Times bestseller. by Atul Gawande. 2014.
  2. (A) Child’s View of Grief – A guide for caring adults; by Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D. 1990. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  3. Coping with Life After Your Mate Dies – Dealing with death of a spouse; by Donald /Cushenbery and Rita Cushenbery. 1997.
  4. Death and Dying, Life and Living – Coping with death, dying, bereavement, and new challenges and opportunities; by Charles Corr, Clyde Nabe and Donna Corr. 1994.
  5. Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death – surviving the first hours and beyond; by Sherokee Ilse. 2010.
  6. (A) Faithful Farewell: Living Your Last Chapter With Love – encouragement to those living life at its closure and living it with openness, faithfulness and hope: by Marilyn McEntyre. 2015.
  7. Getting to the Other Side of Grief – Overcoming the loss of a spouse; by Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge, and Robert DeVries. 1998.
  8. (The) Gift of Compassion: A Guide to Helping Those Who Grieve; by Becca Stevens. 2012. This book is located in the SMALL BOOKS basket.
  9. Gone But Not Lost: Grieving the Death of a Child; by David Wiesbe. 1992.
  10. Good Grief – A constructive approach to the problem of loss; by Granger Westberg. 1997. 2 copies. This book is located in the SMALL BOOKS basket.
  11. Good to Go: A Guide to Preparing For the End of Life; by Jo Myers. 2010.
  12. (A) Grief Observed – The Author’s experience of death of his wife; by C.S. Lewis.1961.
  13. Grieving the death of a Mother – Combines wise counsel and spiritual connection through the issues that surround the death of a mother; by Harold Smith. 2003.
  14. Helping Children Cope with Grief – A teacher’s guide; by Ronald Sunderland, Ed. D. 1995
  15. How to Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies – Grieving the loss of a loved one; by Therese Rando. 1988. 2 copies.
  16. I know Just How You Feel – Avoiding the clichés of grief; by Erin Linn. 1986.
  17. I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodby: Surviving, Coping and Healing After a Sudden Death of a Loved One; by Brook Noel and Pamela Blair, Ph.D 2008.
  18. Lessons on Loss and Living – Hope and guidance for confronting serious illness and grief; by Michele Reiss, Ph.D. 2010.
  19. Letters to Myself on Dying – A journal of hope, pain, and courage; by Mirth Vos. 1999
  20. Letting Go By Holding Tight – Essays generated by the loss of the author’s daughter; by Melinda Kramer. 2007. (3 copies) This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  21. Life After Loss – A practical guide to renewing your life after experiencing major loss; by Bob Deits
  22. Losing a Parent – A guide to facing death and dying; by Alexandra Kennedy. 1991.
  23. My Beautiful Broken Shell – An illustrated book with words of hope to refresh the soul after a loss; by Carol Adams. 1998.
  24. 90 (Ninety) Minutes in Heaven – A true story of death and life; by Don Piper with Cecil Murphey. 2004.
  25. Not the last Goodbye – On life, death, healing and cancer; by David Servan-Schreiber. 2011.
  26. On Children and Death – A parent book about death; by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. 1983
  27. On Grieving the Death of a Father – Religious aspect of death of a father; by Harold Smith. 1994.
  28. (The) Orphaned Adult – Understanding and coping with grief and change after the death of our parents; by Alexander Levy. 1999.
  29. Parting: A Handbook for Spiritual Care Near the End of Life; by Jennifer Holder and Jann Aldredge-Clanton. 2004.
  30. (A) Time to Mourn, A Time to Dance – Help for the losses in life; by Margaret Metzgar. 2000.
  31. Ready to Live, Prepared to Die – A provocative guide to the rest of your life; by Amy Harwell. 1995.
  32. Surviving the Loss of a Child – Support for grieving parents; by Elizabeth Brown. 2010. 2 copies.
  33. Transcending Loss – Understanding the lifelong impact of grief and how to make it meaningful; by Ashley Prend. 1997.
  34. What About the Children? – A parent book about coping with death; by Rose Helms and Doris Blazer. 1986. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  35. (The) Worst Loss – How families heal from the death of a child; by Barbara Rosof. 1994.




  1. Alzheimer’s Early Stages – A guide for family members and friends; by Daniel Kuhn, MSW. 1999.
  2. (The) Art of Helping – What to say and do when someone is hurting; by Lauren Briggs. 2003.
  3. Caregiver Therapy An illustrated guide to deepen and enrich the caregiver’s experience. An Elf-Help book, Abby Press: by Julie Kuebelbeck Victoria O’Connor. Illustrated by R. W. Alley. 1995. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  4. Caring For Your Parents – The complete AARP Guide; by Hugh Delehanty and Elinor Ginzler. 2005.
  5. Christ Will See You Through – For friends in hospitals, nursing centers, and for those going through troubled times; by Richard Crombie, D.D., Ph.D. 1999.
  6. Christian Caregiving – A way of life; by Kenneth Haugk. 1984.
  7. Comforting Friends in Crisis – Guide to knowing what to say, what not to say, and what you can do; by contributors of Group Publishing, Inc. 2009.
  8. Don’t Sing Songs to a Heavy Heart – How to relate to those who are suffering; by Kenneth Haugk, Ph.D. 2009.
  9. How To Be a People Helper – Helping others; by Dr. Cary Collins. 1976.
  10. If There’s Anything I Can Do -What you can do when serious Illness strikes; by Josephine Hicks. 2011.
  11. Lessons in Care-Giving for the Dying – More than a parting prayer; by William Griffith. 2004.
  12. (The) Other Side of Alzheimer’s – A collection of personal experiences by a Raleigh woman who cared for her husband who had Alzheimer’s; by Martha-Lee Ellis. 2012.
  13. Spiritual Care – A guide for caregivers; by Judith Shelly. 2000. 3 copies.
  14. (The) 26-Hour Day – A family guide to caring for persons with Alzheimer disease, related dementing illnesses, and memory loss in later life; by Nancy Mace, M.A. and Peter Rabins, MD. 199l.
  15. Walking on Eggshells – Caring for a critically ill loved one; by Amy Sales. 2012
  16. When Friends Ask for Help – Biblical advice on counseling friends in need; by Harold Sala, Ph.D. 2000.
  17. When Someone Asks For Help – A practical guide for counseling; by Everett Worthington, Jr. 1982.


Devotions, Prayer

  1. All Will Be Well – A collection of healing prayers; edited by Lyn Klug. 1998.
  2. Answering the Call – Inspirational devotions from a tested paramedic; by Pat Patterson. 2010.
  3. (A) Beautiful Life – Devotions for a woman’s heart; by Gwen Faulkenberry. 2008.
  4. (The) Best Gift Is Love – Meditations by Mother Teresa; compiled and edited by Sean-Patrick Lovett. 1982.
  5. Fire in the Soul – A prayer book for the later years; by Richard Lyon Morgan. 2000
  6. (A) Forgiving Heart – Prayers for blessing and reconciliation; edited by Lyn Klug. 2003.
  7. (The) Harper Collins Book of Prayers – A treasury of prayer through the ages; compiled by Robert Van de Weyer. 1993
  8. May I Have This Dance? –Devotions for each month; by Joyce Rupp. 1992
  9. Meditations for the Passages and Celebrations of Life – A book of vigils; by Noela Evans. 1994.
  10. Miracles Are Heaven Sent – A timeless collection of stories, quotes, hymns, scriptures and poems revealing the mysteries of God’s supernatural power; 1995.
  11. 100 (One Hundred) Verses Every Mom Needs to Know – Bible verses on various topics for moms to memorize; publisher, Freeman-Smith. 2009.
  12. Out of the Ordinary – Prayers, poems, and reflections for every season; by Joyce Rupp. 1993.
  13. (The) Power of a Praying Parent – Book of prayers for parents; by Stormie Omartian. 1982. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  14. Prayer – Finding the heart’s true home; by Richard Foster. 1992.
  15. Take Five – Devotions to strengthen a man’s relationships; Robert Busha ed. 1994.


Growing Older 

  1. God Never Forgets: Faith, Hope, and Alzheimer’s disease; by Donald McKim, editor. 1997.
  2. Growing Older and Wiser – 9 Christian studies for individuals or groups; by Dale and Sandy Larsen. 2003. This book is located in the SMALL BOOK basket.
  3. Help, Lord! I’m Having a Senior Moment – Notes to God on growing older; by Karen O’Connor. 2003.
  4. Living with Purpose in a Worn Out Body – Spiritual encouragement for older adults; by Missy Buchanan. 2008.
  5. (The) Merck Manual of Health and Aging – A comprehensive guide to the changes and challenges of aging; by Mark Beers, MD., editor-in-chief. 2004.
  6. No Wrinkles On The Soul – A book of readings for older adults; by Richard Morgan. 1990.
  7. Remembering Your Story – Creating your own spiritual autobiography; by Richard Morgan. 2002.
  8. Settling In – My first year in a retirement community; by Richard Morgan. 2006.
  9. Ten Rules for Growing Older with Dignity – A Christian perspective of aging; by Richard Cox, MD, PhD, DMin. 2012.
  10. (The) Parent Care Conversation – 6 strategies for dealing with the emotional and financial challenges of aging parents; by Dan Taylor. 2006
  11. Successful Aging – A collection of the wit and wisdom of people who have aged successfully; by Mary O’Brien, M.D. 2005.
  12. They’re Your Parents, Too! – How siblings can survive their parents’ aging without driving each other crazy; by Francine Russo, Ph.D. 2010.
  13. When It’s Your Turn – Grown children caring for aging parents: a guide to finances, health, and housing; by Susan Shelly. 2002.


Children’s Books

  1. All Things Bright and Beautiful – A Collection of Prayer and Verse; illustrated by Helen Lanzrein. 2006.
  2. Am I Still a Sister? – A child’s book about death; by Alicia Sims. 1986.
  3. Children Are Not Paper Dolls – A visit with bereaved siblings; by Erin Linn. 1982.
  4. (A) Gathering of Angels – A children’s book of prayers; edited by Peter Eyvindson. 2003.
  5. God Gave Us Two – Polar bear cub expecting a sibling; by Lisa Bergren. 2001.
  6. God Gave Us You – Polar bear cub learns how much babies are wanted; by Lisa Bergren. 2000.
  7. Guess What! We’re Moving – A children’s book about coping with family relocation; by Christine Tangvald. 1988.
  8. Jenny – Coming to terms with the death of a sibling; by Stephanie Jeffs and Jacqui Thomas. 2006.
  9. Mom and Dad Don’t Live Together Anymore – A children’s book about divorce; by Christine Tangvald. 1988.
  10. Please Come Home – A child’s book about divorce; by Doris Sanford. 1985.
  11. Someone I Love Died – A child’s book about death; by Christine Tangvald 1988
  12. It Must Hurt a Lot – A child’s book about death; by Doris Sanford. 1986.
  13. Tell Me Papa – A family book for children’s questions about death and funerals; by Joy and Marv Johnson. 1978.
  14. Timothy Duck – The story of the death of a friend; by Lynn Blackburn. 1987.
  15. We Have a New Baby! – A children’s book about a new baby in the family; by Christine Tangvald. 1988.
  16. What Happened When Grandma Died – Life and death are presented in terms a child can understand easily; by Peggy Barker. 1984.
  17. Where’s Jess – A child’s book about death; by Joy and Marv Johnson. 1982.


Close Menu