FAITH CHALLENGE

Matthew: Jesus’ Ministry

Dealing with Conflict (Lesson B,Week 2)

 

Scripture:          Matthew 18:15-17

Memory Verse:        “You obey the law of Christ when you offer each other a helping hand.”  Galatians 6:2

Concepts:

·        If people offend us or hurt us, we don’t embarrass them by pointing out their faults in public.

·        When we hurt each other, Jesus asks us to work very hard at making up.

·        Jesus tells us always to work on helping each other do better. 

Objectives:

·        Students will learn details of one of Jesus’ teachings about responding to the hurts others cause us

·        Small groups will write two endings to a puppet script and present them to the class.

Gathering Time/Introductions: (Coach)

1.      The Coach leads the opening routine: snack, fellowship, prayer wall activity, and prayer chain.  Nametags are available. 

2.      The Coach collects the offering. For this unit, we are asking students to bring in canned goods as their offering.  By now most students should be aware of the food offering, but for any who may not know, the information is:  Each year, the Presbyterian Church collects an offering at Pentecost to help needy youth and families.  This year Faith Challenge students are creating a paper Mache display for the narthex to encourage the congregation to give to the Pentecost offering.  The display will be two life-size paper Mache people with a “bridge” of canned food between them to show how we can help others.  It is important that every Faith Challenge student bring at least one canned item each week so our “bridge” will be long enough

3.      The Coach reviews the timeline and the previous week’s workshop activity.  This unit focuses on some of Jesus’ teachings and is part of the “God Sends a Son” section. Remind students this is out of chronologic order in relation to Jesus’ life, because the last unit was Jesus’ Death and Resurrection which we studied during the church season of Lent. 

4.      The Coach introduces the Guide who leads the lesson.

 

Workshop Lesson Procedure: (Guide takes over from here):

Application 

1.      Conduct a brief review of last week using the flip chart paper with the pattern for “I” messages.  Review the difference between aggressive, passive, and assertive approaches to conflict.  If there are a large number of students who were not present last week, the Bible passage can be read again and briefly discussed.

2.      Divide the class into three groups.  Pass out two copies of one puppet script (at the end of the lesson) to each group.  Allow students to spread out throughout the room or to use the deck if the weather is nice.  Ask students to prepare two endings to their script. 

·         First ending will show the characters responding in an unhelpful or unhealthy way to resolve the situation or conflict.  The ending can be either aggressive or passive.

·         Second ending shows the characters handling this situation using “I” messages. 

3.      Allow students 15 minutes or so to work.  Remind them to write the words their puppets will say for each ending on the bottom and/back of their script.  They will perform their endings for the class later. 

4.      Call the class back together and have each group perform their script twice—once with each ending.  

5.      After each group has performed, allow a few minutes for discussion to agree or disagree with the endings the group has suggested. 

6.      After all groups have performed, present the memory verse for this lesson in the following manner:  Write each word of the verse on separate pieces of paper. “You, obey, the, law, of, Christ, when, you, offer, each, other, a, helping, hand.”  Galatians 6:2.  Pass out the papers and tell the students to put the verse in order.  Do not provide any assistance.  Let them work as a group to figure out how it goes.  When they think they have it correct, ask them to check it by finding it in the Bible. 

7.      Repeat the memory verse aloud two or three times. 

8.      If additional activities are needed, pass out paper and ask each student to write the memory verse and/or a brief prayer relating to the lesson.  Some prayer ideas are: confession for a time they did not respond to a conflict or difficult situation as Jesus would have liked; thanksgiving when someone else responded to a hurt they caused with forgiveness; supplication asking God to help them respond appropriately when their friends and/or family hurt their feelings.  NOTE:  This could also be done at the end of the first lesson.  Keep the papers for the students’ journals.

 

Wrap-up/Closing (Coach):

1.      Ask students to tidy up

2.      The Coach conducts the closing prayer. 

3.      Close/lock the door and turn off the lights.

Guide preparation in advance:

1.      Check out the room before your first Sunday workshop so that you know where everything is located.  The room set-up should be stools or chairs around the room.  One table with a large sheet draped over it may be used as the puppet stage.  Or if you prefer, a fabric screen is available to use as a stage.  

2.      Make eight copies of each puppet script--two for each group and two extra. 

Supply List

·        Puppet scripts

·        Puppets, fabric screen (if desired), or just a sheet draped over a table. 

·        Bibles, clip boards, pencils

References

·        Writers’ Bible study materials titled “Two Teachings of Jesus” prepared by Susan Mazzara

·        Puppet lesson from Faith Quest Advent unit on Peacemaking,  2001. copyright Kirk of Kildaire

 


MEGAN AND KAITLIN

 

 

Megan and Kaitlin talking on the phone.

MEGAN:  Hey Kaitlin!  What’s up? 

 

KAITLIN: “Nothin’ much, except we got a new puppy.  Come over and see her.”

 

MEGAN:  “OK.  It’s great you live next door.  That means I can see my best friend anytime I want.  And now you’ve got a new puppy!  I’ll be right there.”

 

 

Megan walks across the stage as if she’s walking to Kaitlin’s house.

KAITLIN:  “See my puppy.  Her name is Mandy.”

 

MEGAN: “She’s adorable!  I want one just like her!”

 

 

Megan and Kaitlin play with the puppy for a few minutes.

MEGAN:  “Well, I need to get home for supper. See you tomorrow.”

 

KAITLIN:  “Well, no, I can’t see you tomorrow.  I’ll be with Allison.  She’s coming to spend the weekend with me.”

 

 

Megan walks away slowly with head down, appearing sad and hurt.

 

A few days later.  Megan calls Kaitlin on the phone.

MEGAN: “Hey Kaitlin, can I come see the puppy?  She’s so cute

 

KAITLIN:  “No, Jessica is here right now.  Bye”

 

 

 

Write two endings for this script

1.     Characters responding in an unhelpful or unhealthy way

 

2.     Characters handling the situation as Jesus taught



FRANKIE AND BOB

 

 

Frankie and Bob are in drug store, Wal-Mart, K-Mart, or a similar store.

 

FRANKIE:  “Hey, Bob.  Watch me walk out of here with this pen—and I’m not going to pay for it.”

 

BOB:  “Frankie, you know that’s wrong.  Don’t do it.”

 

FRANKIE:  “What’s one pen?  They won’t miss it”

 

Frankie picks up pen and walks away.

 

 

 

 

Write two endings for this script

 

1.     Characters responding in an unhelpful or unhealthy way

 

2.     Characters handling the situation as Jesus taught

 

 


JOSH AND REBECCA

 

 

Josh and Rebecca are talking together. 

 

JOSH:  “I hope the social studies test isn’t too hard.”

 

REBECCA:  Me too.  I really need a good grade.  If I get another low grade, I’ll get a “D” on my report card.  My dad will be SO mad!”

 

JOSH: “Well, I hope you studied.  I worked hard on this last night.”

 

REBECCA:  “I had soccer practice, so I couldn’t study.”

 

JOSH:  “Well, good luck, anyway.

 

 

Josh and Rebecca sit down near each other and appear to write. Josh works hard.  Rebecca obviously looks at Josh’s paper and writes down answers.  Josh looks up realizes what Rebecca is doing.

 

 

 

Write two endings for this script

 

1.     Characters responding in an unhelpful or unhealthy way

 

2.     Characters handling the situation as Jesus taught